Sunday, November 8, 2015
Being Forgiven And Resting In That Forgiveness Are Two Different Things
Common Sense Commentary: Forgiveness of an offender is of greater benefit to the offended, who forgives, than to the offender they are forgiving.
It is easier for God to forgive you than for others, you have offended, to forgive you.... And, it is easier for them to forgive you than for you to forgive yourself.
Sociopaths have no concept of forgiveness because they have no conscience and feel no guilt. They may ask for forgiveness because they have learned it is disarming to those they have offended and therefore to their advantage. But it is not done out of sincere guilt or regret. A normal person, whether a Christian or not, has a deep need of forgiveness, for they know they are sinful, and have done wrong to others. Forgiving one's self is by far the most difficult barrier to peace of mind. God stands ready, at any moment to forgive the penitent soul ... and most people will forgive you for their own peace of mind... if not yours. But for me to forgive myself requires something in addition to repentance ... It requires faith that, not only has God forgiven me, but that He has given the person I offended the grace to forgive me and thereby healed the offence I caused. But that depends, not on me, but on the attitude of the person I offended. One of the most damaging sins a person can inflict upon themselves, to body, mind and spirit, is unforgiveness. Unforgiveness slowly degrades into bitterness and bitterness into hate. An unforgiven offence is an open wound and vulnerable to long term, spiritual infection until it is forgiven. So if you have unforgiveness in your heart, ask God for his forgiveness of your unforgiveness and then forgive your offender and yourself as well. It is the only way to find healing and rest in the peace it brings.
Here is what Jesus said about it....
"For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. " Matt.6:14-15.